Today, I’m guest-posting over on the Make A Difference To One website on the subject of contentment.
In this day and age, here in the west, the word ‘contentment’ does not sit very well with us.
We have learned to not be content with what we’ve got but to always strive for more, to always want what’s bigger, better and newer.
Unfortunately, this can spill over into our relationships with our spouses. Rather than being content and learning to find satisfaction with who are married to, we constantly try to define what the ‘perfect’ spouse should be like and we then get frustrated, disappointed and disillusioned when our partners don’t fit the mold we’ve created.
Nothing reminds me of this more than a comment my first boss made to me.
I was eighteen, had just left school and was working in an office with two guys who were both in their forties. Every so often, one or other of my female friends from school would drop by to say hi. One day, my boss was being particularly flirtatious with one of these girls and I asked him about it later.
His response to me was, “When I was eighteen, I liked slim, blond, eighteen year old girls. Now I’m forty-something but my tastes haven’t changed. I still prefer slim, blond, eighteen year old girls.”
What a sad statement for his wife. This man’s wife is very attractive but she certainly isn’t eighteen any more. A couple of decades and two children later she’s probably not as slim as she once was – and I don’t think she’s ever been blond! So when describing the type of woman he likes, her husband, the love of her life, describes someone completely different to her.
Now, I’m sure he loves her and treats her well but, by his own admission, when he looks at his wife he sees someone who is not his ideal woman. I dread to think what might happen if his ‘ideal woman’ came along and made advances toward him.
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6 Reply to “Contentment”
Great post at Ginny’s- that is a sad story. We can treat each other awfully sometimes… Guess that’s why we have to guard our hearts.
I would add "discovery" alongside contentment. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder — and if we were to discover new experiences together, it makes for an exciting attraction.
yes, contentment is a tricky one for me. i think it sometimes rubs my desire for excitement and achievement (even if the achievement is something completely godly). The balance for me is to remain content in the moment. I can still be content while in the process of achievement.
This is of course a different take on contentment than the post… but it's what I thought of when I first started reading it.
Now I'm off the read the answer. I'm not content with just the setup hanging there like that. 🙂
-Marshall Jones Jr.
I commented over there, but wanted to come back and let you know that I really enjoyed your thoughts…..what an important message!