Disappoint – Blog Carnival

Parents Disappointed with their daughter

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Welcome to the One Word At A Time Blog Carnival – this week’s word is: Disappoint.

No matter how you’ve come to be here or where you’re coming from, you’re welcome and we’d love for you to come back and visit us again soon.

The idea of the carnival is simple. We pick one word every two weeks and all write a blog post inspired by that word. It’s fascinating to see the range of different trains of thought that can come from just one word.

Below this, you’ll find a little widget called Simply Linked. All the participants add their links to the widget and that way, we can all find and read all the entries into the carnival. You’re welcome to join us, the carnival is open to anyone.

To see all of the upcoming words and their dates, visit http://peterpollock.com/category/faith/carnival/

 

Who Cares What Others Think?… I do!

Dog feeling very down with Christmas hat on

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I think I care what other people think just a little too much.

I’m turning thirty seven in a couple of weeks and yet I still constantly worry that I’ll do something and disappoint my parents.

I know. Crazy, right.

Christmas, Valentine’s day, Mother’s day, Easter, birthdays, in fact every time gifts might be given or exchanged, I worry. I worry that I’m going to disappoint the recipient of my gift by not getting one that’s ‘good’ enough.

Writing blog posts, designing websites, even making my kids’ lunches I worry that I’m not going to be good enough – that what I do will disappoint.

It makes me wonder… do I care what other people think too much or am I just diligent and caring?

Personally I prefer to think I’m too diligent and caring but the truth is probably the opposite.

So I’m looking forward to reading all of the other posts in this carnival on the word ‘disappoint’ to try to get some perspective and I hope you can do the same.

Frankly, worrying about disappointing others all the time is NOT healthy, I’m sure it’s not.

Isn’t it?

Or is it?

What do you think?

About PeterP

I am a blogger, author, stay at home dad, speaker, web hosting trainer and geek (I was so excited to get an iPad that I actually made up a song and dance about it). I am English by birth, but currently live in California with my wife and our three children. I ran a web hosting business for nine years and found that many, if not most of my clients had never learned how to use any of the functions associated with hosting so I wrote a book to try and teach just those skills. I must admit to having fallen in love with WordPress (possibly a little TOO much) and I honestly find it hard to understand why anyone would use anything different to build a site! WordPress is wonderful! My passion is to help others achieve their goals with their websites/blogs. I believe that, with a little help, anyone can have an awesome site.

16 thoughts on “Disappoint – Blog Carnival”

  1. I don’t like the thought of disappointing others either. I’m much better at saying “no” (and not feeling horrible) than I used to be, but I still struggle. I feel your pain, Peter. 🙂

    1. PeterP says:

      Thanks, Jason.

      No is such a hard word to say because it might disappoint people to hear it….

      😉

  2. Peter, I think I worry too much about disappointing others too. But unfortunately O’m not good at all at saying ‘no’ like Jason mentioned above. I still have a lot to work on that…

    1. PeterP says:

      I’m glad I’m not the only one… but then, at the same time, I’m not glad, for you that is!

      🙂

  3. Louise G says:

    I think that behind the fear of disappointing others is the self-judgment that who we are, what we are doing, blah blah blah just isn’t good enough, will never be good enough… And isn’t that like saying to God — you made a mistake when you made me? God doesn’t make mistakes. 🙂

    I’m learning to embrace the truth — I do enough. I give enough. I am enough.

    1. PeterP says:

      Excellent perspective, Louise!

      I wish I could see out of that window!

  4. Hazel I Moon says:

    Usually I feel pretty confident at the time of delivery, it is later that the doubts come, “Was it good enough?” “Could I have done better.” And for a post or message given, “Did they actually get the POINT?”
    I am sure your children like their lunch and the gifts you select! 🙂

    1. PeterP says:

      The whole “Did they actually get the point” thing plagues me all the time!

  5. Oh, I know — that fear of disappointing my parents kept me from piercing my ears until I was in my thirties. I think it’s a good thing to figure out what expectations are truly important, and what aren’t…

    1. PeterP says:

      Were your parents disappointed when you pierced your ears?

  6. floyd says:

    Tough subject, tough answers. I think some of the desire to not disappoint someone else is insecurities that we all have. In other instances I think it could be pride and ego.

    In the end we will disappoint almost everyone at one time or another I think. I wonder how disappointed God is with us? Good thing His love and grace is bigger than our disappointments.

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