Christmas Letters – R

Three days into my Christmas Letters series, we reach the letter R which, on a Sunday, might be expected to be for ‘Religion’ but it’s not, because I can’t stand religion.

That doesn’t mean I hate God, rather it means I can’t stand man made rules and regulations and all the junk that goes with people wanting power even within a group who are supposed to be being led by God.


R is for Romance

One thing that most people don’t know about me is that I actually have a passion for love and marriage and for trying to help people keep their marriages together.

For quite a few years now, I’ve had a website called which I started as an outlet for my passion for marriages. Unfortunately, I haven’t updated it in a long time and I’m working on rebuilding it using WordPress so it’s easier to add to and build upon.


In the mean time, I haven’t stopped constantly trying to work on my own marriage.

I’m always looking for new ideas of things I can do to keep the spark in my marriage alive ย and for new ways to be romantic and surprising for my wife.

This year, I started writing a love letter.

This is no ordinary love letter though.

My wife bought me this leather bound notebook for our anniversary and I LOVE it… but had no idea what to do with it.

I’m terrible at keeping a journal. Appalling. I have loads of the things laying around here which I’ve used for a few days and then gotten bored of.

I’m also terrible at writing notes or anything like that so it was most likely that this awesome note book was going to sit gathering dust on a shelf somewhere.

That’s when I came up with the idea of a Love Letter.

I like to write my wife little notes and love letters regularly and she has a pile of scraps of paper that I have used to wax lyrical about how awesome she is so why not write those notes in a journal and thus write one, big, ongoing love letter.

So that’s what I do.

I regularly write soppy, romantic and affectionate little missives to the love of my life in the notebook she gave me and then leave it somewhere for her to find.

Sometimes it will be on her pillow, sometimes in her lunch bag. Sometimes it will be on the dashboard of the car when she gets in and sometimes she’ll get it had delivered by… me.

There’s no limit to the number of places I can leave it for her to find and so it acts as a nice surprise for her. When she sees the notebook she knows that her husband has written something new to her.

Sometimes it will be a poem, sometimes a letter, sometimes there will be something stuck or drawn in there, sometimes it will be a simple “I Love You.’

It doesn’t matter so much WHAT I write as THAT I write it.

It’s simple, it’s easy and apart from the cost of the note book it doesn’t cost anything but it’s a great way to keep the romance alive and put a smile on my wife’s face.

Maybe your spouse would like something like that, too? Let your creative juices flow and find a fun, original way to add some more romance to YOUR marriage!